12 weeks

These last 12 weeks have been the best weeks of my life!!! Having Dylan has changed everything for the better!! Next week I go back to work and I am not looking forward to it!!! It is going to be so hard to leave my little guy! He brings my days so much joy! 

We've done so much these last couple of months. I am going to miss the Mommy and Me group and our carefree kinda scheduled days!

My boy is so big!! At our last appointment (2 months) he was 14lbs and 24 inches long. He is wearing some 3-6 month clothing, 6 month clothing and 9 month clothing! 

I have so many thoughts in my head that I want to share. Like how I never thought I could love someone so much or that I miss being pregnant and want to go back in time and relive his birthday!! But it's a new season and we move forward into new fun stages! 

Far too overdue update

Wow... time has flown by!!! My son, Dylan, was born on January 2nd at 11:58 pm and weighed 9 lbs 15 oz. he is perfect! Absolutely the most beautiful baby I've ever seen, but I am biased!!! We stayed in the hospital for a little over 24 hours. Going home was a little scary for me... Leaving the bubble of the hospital and all the helpful nurses!

Breastfeeding was a struggle and he was having such a hard time latching, plus he was not getting enough so he was upset and would sit on my boobs for hours! It was such a struggle. A nurse suggested we try a little formula and it helped. Once at home I continued to try but it was frustrating for us both. I broke down and started formula. I was feeling so guilty that I decided I would pump and feed him the milk. I went to see a lactation consultant and she ordered me a hospital grade pump. I also rescheduled the appointment to bring Dylan back in to work on him latching. But then I ended up back in the hospital. 

After my lactation appointment I had an OBGYN appointment because it was hurting so badly to urinate. After a little protesting I gave the nurse a urine sample which actually showed a high amount of protein in it and I had high blood pressure. The poor doctor came into the room to me bawling because I was in pain from peeing,  it had been a few hours since I'd seen my son and I was feeling so guilty about Breastfeeding.   The doctor felt bad because he said I was going to have to go to the ER and that I would probably be admitted for my blood pressure. 

I was pissed to have to go to the ER. I felt fine and I did not want to be around sick people. After about an hour I was finally given a little triage room and the doctor who delivered my son came down to see me. She pretty much confirmed I would be admitted for preeclampsia. The good news was I was going back to the mother and baby wing where I recovered after birth and my son could come and see me.

After being admitted I was immediately hooked up to magnesium sulfate and the doctor confirmed I had preeclampsia post delivery. Great. I was going to have to stay for a minimum of 24 hours. The medicine was awful. I felt fine prior to the medicine but it started to make me weak, I vomited, my vision went blurry and had the worst headache ever. Plus, where they put my IV, it made it very hard to hold my son! I was so thankful when they took me off the magnesium yesterday. My son came later in the afternoon when I was feeling better and I got to feed him twice and hold him.

Currently, I am waiting to be discharged and can't wait to go home. I never really got get settled at home!

Love this little guy!!

It's a...

BOY!!! Wifey and I are having a baby boy. We are so excited. We've had a really long day so I will post all the details tomorrow!!!

26 days since last post and the Liebster Award!!

Lots to share. I can't believe its been 26 days since I last posted. Okay, yes I can believe. This pregnancy has been harder than I thought it would be and I am just plain scared something will happen. So I try not to talk about it!!

 

So first... Thank you to the mommies over at More than Words for nominating my little blog for the Liebster Award!!!

 

For those of you who have never heard of the Liebster Award, it’s basically an awesome way for small bloggers to give recognition to other small bloggers (with 200 followers or less) for the contributions they make to the blogosphere.

Here are the rules: 

- Thank the Liebster Blog presenter who nominated you and link back to their blog.

- Post 11 facts about yourself, answering the 11 questions you were asked and create 11 questions for your nominees.

- Nominate 11 blogs who you feel deserve to be noticed and leave a comment on their blog letting them know they have been chosen.

- Display the Liebster Award logo.

- No tag backs meaning you can’t just re nominate the person who nominated you.

And here are my 11 questions:

1. What is the first thing you noticed about your spouse/partner? Wow... I am not really sure. Wifey is the whole package... smart and sexy. I would say I was first attracted to her personality.

 

2. If you could relive one day of your life, which would it be? The first time I was with my Wifey!! Second would be the day I graduate college... whoot, whoot!!!!

 

3. Dogs or cats? Dogs - 100% DOGS - LOVE German Shepherds!!!

 

4. What is your biggest pet peeve? hmm... stressful people.

 

5. What is your idea of the perfect day? Any day I can spend with the Wifey.

 

6. What is one television show you watch/DVR every week? Law & Order Special Victims Unit

 

7. Are you a saver or a spender? Spender. but my Wifeys ways are rubbing off on me and I am becoming for frugal.

 

8. What made you want to start blogging? I wanted to document this process. Plus when I first looked into starting a family, I read all the lesbian blogs I could find and I hope someday someone who is just starting finds my little blog and finds its helpful!!!

 

9. What is the best movie you’ve seen in the past year? Good question. I really like Zero Dark Thirty. She kicked ass!!!

 

10.  Do you have a signature dish?  If so, what is it? No... I cook pretty simple.

 

11. Favorite outdoor activity? Water skiing. My parents use to have a boat and I loved being on the lake! We no longer have a boat and I hate summer!!!


Okay... her comes the hard part. I am suppose to nominate 11 blogs. But I know a ton of the blogs I read have already gotten this award. So sorry... if you getting again!!

Opening the Door

Two Mommies AND A BABY!

10stix,2weeks,repeat

Our Journey to Become Mommies

theterrellsjourney

LezBmommies

Wiegand Writes

Our Journey to Become Mommies

In Pursuit of Giggles

2 Moms- It can be done!

A Story Of Two Moms

Now for my 11 questions...

1. What has TTC taught you and your partner?
2. Where would you go on vacation if money was not an issue?
3. Do you have pets? And if so what type and their names?
4. Favorite Meal - Breakfast, Lunch or Dinner and what do you prefer to eat for this meal.
5. Fall or Spring?
6. Favorite winter activity?
7. Who has influenced your life the most (family member, friend, teacher)
8. If you could re-do one thing what would it be?
9. How many kids do you and your partner want or are you done?
10. Favorite thing to do on the weekends?
11. Why did you start blogging?


As for life and pregnancy, things are truckin right along. We had another scare this week. Sunday night I woke up about 11 p.m. bleeding. When this happens its so scary. The only good thing is that it was not gushing. So we went to the ER. The doctor was the biggest jerk and he was the Chief of Emergency Services. He told me and Wifey before checking me out that the pregnancy was either ectopic or I was miscarrying. We told him we are 17 weeks pregnant and have seen the baby several times so we knew it was not ectopic. He did a pelvic exam and said it looked like my cervix was closed but it could be opening. He would not do an ultrasound and did not want to call a tech in. So we left after wasting $50 around 12:45 and I was up all night scared that something could go wrong. At 6 a.m I called the line to get an appointment with an OBGYN. We went in at 11:15 and the baby was in there moving and its little heart was beating strong. She checked my cervix and it was measuring 3.6. She could see fluid in my cervix and the internal pelvic showed lots of brown mucus. But she could not say why I bled again. They labelled it again a threatened miscarriage. This has been pretty stressful; I get scared that something is going to happen at any second but I have to keep thinking positive that this little baby is strong and will keep baking away! We go back to the doctor on the 5th and then we go for our big ultrasound for the gender on the 12th. Oh how I can wait.

While, I have not wanted to jinx this pregnancy... I finally bit the bullet and we bought our first piece of furniture. Buy Buy baby was having a great sale on a crib and changing table. But they did not have them in stock so we paid for one of the 4 that were being shipped. A day after paying we got a call they were no longer getting them. I really liked the crib, so Wifey found it on Walmart.com and ordered it. Today she picked it up and tomorrow we are going to put it together.

Also, my belly is getting bigger; I will have to take a picture soon. It is a really strange feeling. I just want to start enjoying this pregnancy.

 

Official

Today wifey and I officially got married. We went to the county recorders office and lucky for us today only they were doing same day marriages. Wifey and I are shy so the ceremony was a little awkward but we are so happy to have our license!!! Everyone should be able to get this piece of paper! I have to admit we live in a conservative area and I was nervous about how we would be treated; but we were lucky and everyone was so nice.

I am still on bed rest. The spotting finally stopped last Friday and I had a good weekend. Still taking it easy. The only thing I've done is going for our license. Over this week I will slowly increase activity. I am nervous about going back to work but looking forward to it! Plus I've noticed my energy is really low from being on bed rest and I need to gain it back.

History

History was made yesterday when DOMA was struck down and the Supreme Court ruled that the Prop 8 case did not have standing; therefore the court of appeals ruling stands.

Living in California this was a BIG DEAL for me and my family. Wifey and I did not get married the first time when they were issuing marriage certificates. But this time we are getting married. We are just waiting for the go ahead. We will not have a wedding but I do not need that. I need equality and the right to marry the woman I love. 

Yesterday was a historic day and a step towards equality for all. I hope we will all have the same rights very soon!!! 

Modified Bed Rest

We are still in the early part of this pregnancy and it has been a wild roller coaster. After Fridays scare we had an appointment with our nurse practitioner (NP) Monday. Our little peanut looked good on the ultrasound and she was not sure why we bleed. The NP put me off work for the week to rest.

After the appointment we had to go to member services to get my FMLA paperwork done. Then we ran some errands. I was on my feet more than I had been all weekend. Well around 9:30. I felt a gush and ran to the bathroom. I bleed through my panty liner and underwear. The blood was coming so fast I felt I could not get off the toilet. I called the advice nurse and they told me to go to the ER. When we got there we were quickly taken back. Less than 30 minutes later we saw the little peanut on the ultrasound and it was moving and the heart was beating. The ER doctor could not figure out why I was bleeding. I was sent home to rest.

We decided to do bed rest and yesterday went well barely any spotting only when I wiped did I see brownish/red blood. I also emailed my NP to let her know what was going on. She emailed me back today and agreed that I need to be on modified bed rest and we will reevaluate at the end of the week. So for the week I am home and on the couch. It's boring but I will do whatever it takes to keep this baby safe.